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On The Trail With Bud

Happiness Part 3 - Symptoms of Inner Peace

A note from the author:
Howdy, Friends.  On November 5, 2011, I had the great pleasure of sharing the lecture platform with Dr. Susan Hollar and her husband/manager Mark Absher in Charlotte, NC. at the Holiday Dental Conference. Now I can legitimately say that I have been blessed to work in your profession for FORTY YEARS!! I began serving as a consultant to Drs. Sam and Jim Callender in 1971. Jim arranged for me to conduct a two-day personal growth retreat for the orthodontic residents at the dental school in Kansas City that year.

When Neil Hiltunen asked me for yet another essay on happiness I agreed to tackle it. I hope you find it useful. Please keep in mind that as difficult as it seems, happiness is a choice. Whenever we entertain a thought that detracts from our peace and happiness, if we are willing to exercise the discipline, we have the ability to choose again! We can always replace negative thinking, which is always fear-based with positive thinking, which is invariably love-based. Also keep in mind that "victimhood" is always a choice.

Peace, Bud

Happiness Part 2

My fear-based thinking tells me it is audacious to attempt tackling the huge subject of happiness! My love-based thinking says “so what,” maybe we can touch on a few things that even “old moss backs” (a cowboy term for a very, very old steer) like us can benefit from. Believe me I’m including myself in this category and the search for improved quality of life -- more happiness.

Happiness

In a recent phone visit with Neil Hiltunen he mentioned the theme of "Happiness In Retirement" for a future communication from ARD. I found that interesting and a topic I am very happy to write about!img_4860

While thinking about the huge subject of human happiness it occurred to me that  a way to start might might be to give some thought to one of the opposites of happiness – I suppose that would be unhappiness. But what is that?  Let me give you one word of what unhappiness is then I’ll spend the rest of the essay explaining how it might make sense. The one word is fear.

Changing Places

The problem with being retired is that you never get a day off.” - Art Linkletter
“A simple test to see if your mission in life is finished – If you are here it isn’t.” - Avrom King

In my last essay for ARD I used the phrase “hanging it up.”  Neil Hiltunen questioned the use of the phrase – let me clarify.  I am a trout fisherman, have been for more than 70 years.  I was eight when I caught my first one, a small brook trout.  Prudence and painful experience tells me that it is time to stop wearing chest high waders and fishing in fast moving streams and rivers with unstable footing!  I’m hanging it up on river wade fishing.

Bud Ham’s “The Trail Of Transitions”

Episode Theory
“The ending of every episode in life signifies the beginning of a new one.”
Yes, of course, the “biggie” is birth and death of the body.  Within the span of that episode every one of us has had hundreds of shorter episodes -- each with its beginning and end.  If you went into great detail identifying and recording these episodes it would be creating your auto-biography -- not a bad thing to do. 

 

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